5 things to quit today đ
Get rid of whatâs holding you back
Some habits you have to start doing, but some others are meant to be rid of. Does any of these ring a bell?
1. Belittling your achievements
This might be hard to believe, but youâre good enough to be where you are at the moment.Â
The hard work youâve put into making things happen, the silent hopes, the sleep deprivation, the constant worries; after all of those, you deserve the title youâve earned for yourself.
Acknowledging good things youâve done isnât the same as boasting, anyway. What itâs really doing is owning a strength of yours and giving yourself some credits, which is a useful way to practice self-confidence.
Think of your past self; would they have expected to get where you are right now? Would they be proud?
2. Fearing the things you want
Your dream goal can be a daunting place.
Itâs not uncommon to want things so bad you end up pulling away, stalling yourself from truly getting there.Â
It could be because you donât think youâre good enough, or youâre just trying to protect yourself from disappointment. Self-minimizing behavior might be at play, too.
But, hey, if you never try, how are you going to know? What if instead of thinking âwhat if I fail,â we think âwhat if I succeedâ?
3. Basing your happiness on a condition
Iâll be happy when I graduate. Iâll be happy when I get that job. Iâll be happy when I win a scholarship. Iâll be when I get promoted. Iâll be happy when I buy that thing âŠ
Making and working towards your goals can be most rewarding, but basing your happiness on a condition creates a loop. You start chasing one condition after another. It will never end.Â
Eventually, you end up feeling tired and wonder, why am I never happy?
4. Regretting past actions
We all know the dreadful, gut-wrenching sensation of realizing a mistake couldâve been avoided.
Experience isnât the best teacher; evaluated experience is. And sometimes the worst experience teaches the best lesson.Â
Hold on to the lesson, but let go of the guilt of not doing the right thing in the past. Itâs over, thereâs no way to change what has already happened.
Most importantly, forgive yourself for the mistake.
5. Spending time with the wrong people
Ever felt drained of energy after spending time with someone?Â
Does being near them makes you more prone to lashing out, gossiping, or other things you wouldnât do in another setting?
Consider shifting your circle. You are shaped by the environment around you, and that includes the people you interact with on a daily basis.
Choose who youâre spending time and energy wisely. Once youâve shifted your environment, youâll start noticing a difference. Hopefully, a better one.
Quitting things are never easy, especially if youâre never aware of them in the first place.
If youâre feeling lost, itâs useful to ask for a second opinion from a friend, a family member, or a trusted colleague.Â
Happy quitting, and weâll see you next week! đ